Listening to friends (family members...associates...pets...)

In life, it proves to be beneficial to have a strong support system. A lot of the time the foundation consists of our family, the people who gave us our basis on human interaction. The ones whether you're on good terms or not cannot escape the ties because of the genetic connection. Secondly, our support beams usually are our friends. People who we've met along the way in which we have a mutual connection with that's beyond just simple interaction but a genuine bond. Sometimes this connection begins to run so deep and strong that these beams become a solid part of our foundation.
Naturally when we begin to find comfort in our foundation and support beams so we start to lean on them when we don't feel secure in certain life decisions. This displays that we have a certain level of trust in them and that they will help hold us up and keep us steady. However, although our support system may have good intentions, they themselves may not have a similar support system. They will try to do their best at holding you up but their point of reference may be shaky...and you in turn may need to rely on your own instincts.
I use this metaphor to say, thread lightly and take with a grain of salt the advice offered to you from the people around you. This will probably be beneficial to you for several reasons...
A. A lot of people offer advice on subjects they know little to nothing about and based on superficial knowledge, like a show they watched the other day.
B. everyone has a bias before they lend advice. Meaning they already lean a certain way in any situation due to their own life experience
C. Sometimes we trust the wrong people. There are people in our lives that present themselves as friends and really (knowingly or unknowingly) don't want to see you acquire what they don't have themselves
D. There are selfish motives more often than not behind advice. Therefore your best interest isn't at the core of the decision.
E. The people closest to us may genuinely want for us what they don't have themselves, which may have been good for THEM but may not be the best for us.
F. The only person who can see the entire situation for what it truly is...is ourselves. When we relay back situations to other people we tell them from our own one-dimensional perspective.

Furthermore, a lot of us go to our closest girlfriends or our mother's or our sisters or our sisters baby daddy's cousin for advice on life decisions. Although seeing a situation from different perspectives is beneficial...it should only AID in the ultimate choice. For the simple fact when its all said and done you're the one who has to live with it. The WHOLE world could be telling you to  break up with or marry or have a baby with John John, but if it isn't in your heart to do it, you probably shouldn't. If you aren't confident in a decision that effects your life...how can someone else be so sure? Every choice and life path isn't meant for everybody and when we start living life based on everyone else's opinion when things go south we then tend to resent them and  then ourselves.

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